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How To Raise Thankful Kids – A Bible Lesson On Gratitude

If you’re here as a parent, looking for a bible lesson on gratitude, you’re on the right path. Being intentional is the first step.

Grateful kids experience more joy in life and are a joy to be around. But helping a child to be grateful is not easy. Gratitude isn’t natural, it must be cultivated.

The Meaning Of Gratitude

It’s important to understand the difference between thankfulness and gratitude. Saying the words, “thank you,” does not make you grateful. It may not even mean you’re thankful! The only thing you can be sure of, if your says “thank you,” is that they have been taught to be polite.

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Raising grateful kids requires more than just training a child to say “thank you.”

A child might say thank you all the time, but may not feel or even mean the words at all. Being thankful is a self-focused feeling. Being thankful just means feeling pleased, relieved, or according to Merriam-Webster, being “conscious of benefit received.”

Gratitude means being thankful and valuing the kindness of the giver. Gratitude turns the focus to the one who gives. It means showing appreciation for the effort and thoughtfulness of the giver.

How To Teach Someone Gratitude

So now that we have a clear definition of what gratitude means, how do you teach your kids gratitude? The most powerful way is to model gratitude. Let your kids see you thank God and others and recognize their efforts and kindness.

When your kids are old enough, talk to your kids about gratitude. Explain to them that being grateful is something that you value. Also tell them that it is an important part of living in the way that Jesus lived.

The bible is full of lessons in regards to gratitude, but I love all that can be gleaned from the “laborers in the vineyard” parable Jesus shared.

Parable Teaching About Gratitude

There was a man who owned some land. One morning, the man went out very early to hire some people to work in his vineyard. He agreed to pay the workers one silver coin for working that day. Then he sent them into the vineyard to work.

About nine o’clock the man went to the marketplace and saw some people standing around, doing nothing. So he said to them, ‘If you go and work in my field, I will pay you what your work is worth.’ So they went to work in the vineyard.

At about twelve, three, and five o’clock he went and hired more people, who had no work, to work in his vineyard. He said he would pay them “whatever is right.”

At the end of the day, the owner of the field had all the workers paid starting with the ones who were hired last. Everyone got paid silver coin, so the workers who were hired first thought they would be paid more than the others. When they got their silver coin, they complained.

The owner said to one of them, “Friend, I am being fair with you. You agreed to work for one silver coin. So take your pay and go. If I want to give the man who was hired last the same pay I gave you. Why are you jealous because I am generous?”

Matthew 20:1-15
(ERV, with some edits for brevity)

5 Tips For Teaching Gratitude To Kids

This parable can teach us and our kids a lot about what it means to be grateful. Here are 5 tips from this parable on how to raise grateful kids.

1. Model Gratitude.

Demonstrate gratitude. Avoid complaining or talking about all that you are owed. Be careful of how you speak to your kids.

I’ve caught myself saying, “How many times have I told you?..You drive me crazy…I’m sick and tired of…” This kind of talk does not correct or teach, it’s complaining.

2. Set Clear Expectations.

The owner told everyone that he would pay them one silver coin or “what is right.” The workers did what was agreed upon and so did the owner. The first workers hired did not do anything more than what they had agreed to, so they should not have expected more pay. 

3. Help Them Identify Gifts.

As anyone who has struggled with unemployment knows, just to have a job that pays is a gift. Every one of the people who were hired that day started out no work and one less silver coin. They were gifted with an opportunity to earn a good wage. Help your child label their gifts with a gratitude journal.

How to Raise Grateful Kids - Identify your blessings

4. Avoid Comparison.

The people hired at the end of the day needed work and money, too. The workers who were hired first compared themselves to the people hired last. It only made them angry.

Instead, they could have been happy for the people hired later to have also been found. They could’ve celebrated the generosity of the owner who sought them out and hired them.

It’s not uncommon for people to attempt to find gratitude by comparing to those who have less than.. those who are “starving and cold” over there, so “finish your dinner.” Help your children to see those in need without comparing. This kind of comparison can create unhealthy biases, barriers, and stereotypes about people who struggle.

5. Have Them Earn And Care For Their Things

Teach your kids that having things requires effort by having them earn and care for things given to them. No one got a silver coin for doing nothing. 

Raising Grateful Kids In An Entitled World

Entitlement doesn’t look good on anybody. I think two mistaken beliefs from the world that drive entitlement in children.

  1. The more wealth I have, the more valuable I am.
  2. I can’t get things for myself, so the only way to get what I want is to demand it.

Fight Entitlement

Remind your kids that they are valuable for who they are, not what they have. And don’t show favoritism towards the wealthy (James 2:1-13).

Empower your kids to provide for themselves at every opportunity. Do they want a new toy? Offer them the opportunity to earn it.

Battle Comparison

I know I mentioned it above, but it bears repeating. There are times when life will appear unfair.

But God doesn’t give in to our comparisons or surrender to our sense of fairness, but because He is generous and knows what we need and when we need it. Most often, our sense of what’s “fair” is rooted in comparison of what we think someone else has. Truthfully, we don’t ever know the whole story of what’s going on in someone else’s life.

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And so we should do the same with our children. Don’t worry about satisfying their sense of what’s fair, don’t even pretend to. It rewards complaint and entitlement.

Instead help your kids to see that you give willingly according to what each one needs and from a place of generosity.

Some Final Thoughts On Teaching Biblical Gratitude


If you take one thing away from this post, I hope it’s that biblical gratitude is about honoring another, especially God, above all others. It’s about turning our attention towards the giver and choosing to honor their effort and kindness with appreciation.

Gratitude is not just being thankful to have received something. It’s not just about politeness, though that has it’s own value too. When we come to God with gratitude, it brings into a proper posture of humility, unity with Christ, and often leads to praise.

Let me leave you with this final bible verse on gratitude. It may be a helpful one to memorize as you continue to pursue how to raise grateful kids.

“And whatever you do, in word or in deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him” (Col 3:17).

Download your free gratitude bible verse coloring page here.

This post includes excerpts from the Bible study discussion guide:
“Parenting in Christ: Lessons from the Parables”

How do you demonstrate gratitude in your home?

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Christina Dronen

Christian mom who practices gentle parenting. Author of the Parenting In Christ Bible study discussion guides.

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  1. Amber Lock says:

    Since reading this chapter in the book, we have been trying to find ways to intentionally teach the difference between what’s owed, what’s earned, and what’s a gift. It truly makes a difference in what they show, thankfulness or gratitude!

    1. That’s so great to hear Amber! I think it’s a helpful question to continue to ask ourselves too – about what we are truly owed, what is earned and what’s a gift. I’m so glad to hear that you’ve found Parenting In Christ so helpful! And I’m _grateful_ 😉 to you for sharing. 🙂

  2. AnnMarie says:

    I guess I never thought to stress valuing the kindness of the giver. Such a great part of the equation!

    1. Until I dug deep and did the research I didn’t really think about it either. But I think gratitude flows more naturally that way – rather than being told you “have to say thank you.” It can also help when the gift isn’t necessarily what you want. You can still honor the thoughtfulness of the giver, who was trying! 🙂

  3. Danielle James says:

    I like these lesson ideas on cultivating gratitude! We have our family values and different times in the year where we focus on thankfulness as a family but I think we try to incorporate this too

    1. Thanks Danielle! I’m so glad to hear it’s helpful! I think gratitude is one of those things we stray away from if we aren’t intentional. That’s so great that you’ve set aside multiple times throughout the year to focus on it!

  4. Jessica Brodie says:

    I love this, Christina! And one of your items really hit home: “Help your children to see those in need without comparing.” The comparison game is such a downward spiral. I try just to focus on the HELP without any strings.

    1. Thanks Jessica!

      It really is a tricky thing the comparison- I know I used to hear a common backhanded attempt at inspiring gratitude, “Eat your dinner… there’s children starving in Africa.” As if we couldn’t be grateful for our food without comparing to them. Now, of course it’s a frustrating stereotype (thanks also to media) that people from Africa are now trying to battle. That’s part of the danger of comparison too.

  5. Michelle Broussard says:

    Wonderful article. I love the idea of cultivating an attitude of gratitude in your home. Gratitude is the antidote for self-pity!

    1. Thank you Michelle! It’s so important to be intentional! An attitude of gratitude does so much good!

  6. Brittany says:

    Teaching my kids gratitude is so important. I never thought of it being an explicit lesson that I need to take time to really teach. I’m going to have to think if these things and be more proactive in my children feeling entitled. Thanks for this ❤️

    1. Hey Brittany – it is! I definitely need to step up my game on teaching my kids gratitude! It’s hard until it’s a habit right?

  7. Shanique| Rock Solid Faith says:

    I love these ideas on cultivating gratitude. I am not a parent, but its definitely something to think about once I do reach that stage in my life.

    1. Thanks Shanique!

  8. This is something that we’ve really struggled with in our family, and I love the tips you’ve provided. I think it’s especially important to set clear guidelines and have the kids understand that having things doesn’t come easy! Thank you!

    1. Thanks Sarah. I’m so glad you’ve found this helpful! It definitely doesn’t come easy!

  9. Emily | Be Strong and Fearless says:

    What an interesting read! I love that parable, but I’d never made the connections explained here. My children are usually pretty good about being grateful, but they are bad about comparing themselves to one another.
    Thank you for sharing! 🖤

    1. Thanks Emily! That’s what I love about the parables – they are so rich with so many lessons. I still struggle with comparison & so do my kids. I imagine it’s a lifelong struggle!

  10. Elizabeth says:

    Cultivating an attitude of gratitude is something I really try to do in my family. These are great ideas and I loved this post!

    1. Thanks Elizabeth. I haven’t been as intentional as I should be. Work in progress! I appreciate your encouragement!

  11. Rosevine Cottage Girls says:

    Love this! Cultivating an attitude of gratitude in our kids is so important!

    1. Thank you! It surely is! 🙂

  12. Patsy Burnette says:

    We live in such an ungrateful society, and so easy to slip into that mentality, without even noticing it. Thanks for this great post! Scheduled on Tailwind. Thanks for linking up at InstaEncouragements!

    1. Thanks Patsy! It definitely takes being intentional to stay grateful. I appreciate your encouragement 🙂

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